Words of Wisdom
In Transition
April 2008
During times of transition one may feel overwhelmed by stress and the fear of the unknown. Whether you are selling your home or changing jobs or careers, you are not immune to the unpredictable circumstances that may arise.
Transition is like change, it is a must for things to evolve. We transition through many things throughout our lives. Starting with the very first day you were born, you went from baby to toddler, going through adolescence to adulthood etc. It is a continuous process until we transcend into death.
When we are going through transition, it is important to hang on to the simple things in life. Stress can cause our bodies to transcend into illness and so it is very important to remember the things that are important in our lives, things that bring us joy, laughter and happiness. Staying in a state of worry or stress can result in upset moods and placing our bodies into chaos.
How do you know you have transcended into a negative state?? We have this wonderful mechanism called our ‘emotional guidance system’ (EGS) that will warn us of these states. The EGS will tell us if we are thinking bad things or good things. Just listen to your body. If you are feeling physical pain or discomfort in your body, it is likely that you are in a state of worry, anger or stress, amongst other negative emotions. When you are in a negative state of mind, you are more likely to feel it in your body, as this is the way your mind tells you that what you are thinking or feeling is not good for you.
What can you do then, when you are in a negative emotional state to get yourself out of it? Depending on how deep you are into the state will determine how much work it will take to get you out. For example a person in a deep state of depression may feel tired, lethargic and unmotivated in the physical body. This person will have to work harder at the shift than someone just in a bad mood. I would suggest following the next three points to counteract the negative state:
1. Start a gratitude journal. Buy yourself a nice hard cover book to write in. Label it ‘Things I am Grateful For’. Look around you and list the things in your life that bring you happiness, joy or laughter. What are you grateful for? When writing these things, get into a state of gratitude.
2. Have aces up your sleeve. If writing in your journal doesn’t shift your state of mind, find other things that usually bring fun into your life. Going for a walk, dancing, singing at the top of your lungs to your favorite songs, favorite poetry or even calling or seeing your best friend. Do whatever works. Try them all. These are your aces.
3. Meditate or pray. Visualize yourself in a positive way. The way you would ‘want’ things to work out. Make sure it’s realistic. If your boyfriend broke up with you and you are upset about it, please visualize yourself getting over him and moving on. You have to visualize this way, because visualizing that you what him back may not be a realistic outcome and may force you into a deeper saddened state. Keep it REAL.
We all go through things in our life. There is nothing too big or too small. A mountain can be made from a molehill and a grain of sand into a pebble. It is how you decide to handle it that will make it a bad transition or a great one.
So often, we lose ourselves somewhere along life's path. Maybe you lost yourself to marriage, your family, motherhood or your career. When we lose the power to believe in ourselves then we lose focus, desire, passion, love, friendship and the drive to live a fulfilling life - the desire to live to your fullest potential. We are now providing tele-coaching that can help you Find a Way to Believe in You!
Santi (peace),
Katherine
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